Tuesday, 27 October 2020

Top Tips to Guide Spousal Caregivers When the Going Gets Tough

As an individual ages and loses some of their independence, the most common care scenario is for one of their children to step in. However, in some cases, the elderly individual’s spouse or partner, who might be younger, healthier, and/or more mobile will fill the role of caregiver.

There is a very different emotional dynamic for ‘spousal caregivers’ than that which exists when an adult child is looking after their parent. Watching your life partner deteriorate and feeling helpless to do anything about it is deeply traumatising and can lead to extremely difficult times. Here are a few tips to help spousal caregivers cope.

Don’t allow self-care to fall by the wayside

When you live with the person for whom you are caring, it can prove challenging to find a sense of personal space and to take a break from caregiving to see to your own needs. Spousal caregivers must prioritise self-care and can do this by asking for help from family members or hiring someone to provide assistance with home care on a regular basis.

Remember you are still partners

Even in the instance when your spouse is suffering from dementia, the fact remains that they will always be your partner. Do not approach the caregiving tasks with the mentality that you are taking care of a child. Work together as a team and reassure your husband or wife that they will always have a say in their care and daily routines, even if this say is only communicated via simple gestures or their body language.

Seek emotional support

There are times when you are bound to feel isolated and lonely in your role as a spousal caregiver. Remind yourself that there are thousands of other people going through exactly the same emotional rollercoaster. The great news is that it is possible to connect with them and provide each other with support. Search for support groups online or in person within your community.

Pick up a new hobby

Sometimes, what you really need is a good distraction from your worries. Don’t allow caregiving to rob you of life’s many pleasures – make the effort to retain your hobbies or to pick up a few new ones! It is a wonderful opportunity to get your partner involved in an enjoyable activity, too.

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